If only we had control over who and when we loved, right? Life would be probably be a lot simpler.
But we all know that it doesn't work that way.
There's no shut off button to end your feelings for someone else. You can numb all you want through drugs, alcohol, food, etc., but as soon as that goes away, those emotions are right back to reminding you about your love for that person.
You can choose to express your feelings for that person, but what if they are in a relationship or married to someone else?
If you're unable to show your feelings for someone else due to them being in a relationship or married to someone else, remember that:
1. You don't have to stop loving that person.
It's one thing to love someone who's with someone else and it's another to interfere with their life. Truly loving someone is letting them be where they are in their lives.
You have the freedom to have all the love you want for someone and that is something no one can ever take from you.
To try to control and manipulate a situation to try to get them to be with you is not love, but insecurity and fear.
2. If it is meant to be, they'll come around.
Life is funny and unpredictable. They can be with someone else now, but there's no guarantee that it will be that way in the future.
That isn't to say that you should hold on hoping that things don't work for them, because hoping can make you miss out on opportunities where you might meet and fall in love someone who is actually available.
3. Be grateful for having had the opportunity to feel what it's like to love someone else, even if it's not returned.
Many people will live and die never having felt what it is like to love and be loved. Loving someone reminds us of our aliveness and humanity. The fact that you can open your heart and let someone in can show you that you still have the courage to love and connect.
It takes bravery and courage to love someone. Be proud that you can feel that way about someone.
Chances are that with time, you will cross paths with someone that'll make you feel similar to how you felt for that other person, but this time they will also be able to show you that they love you too.