Feel Guilt and Shame After Masturbation or Sex? How To Process These Emotions

Feel Guilt and Shame After Masturbation or Sex? How to Process these emotions

 As kids, many of us were told to close our eyes or go to our room as soon as a sex scene was about to flash across the screen. We would get scolded at if our parents found us touching our body parts with curiosity.

It was dirty. A secret. Wrong. A sin. 

The topic of sex was forbidden to be discussed about and as a result, we grew up and now feel the same way we did as kids when we were punished for exploring ourselves.  

So, how do we overcome these feelings of guilt or shame? It's not easy, but it is important to sit with those feelings and not beat yourself up over them.

We have to remind ourselves that we are not choosing to feel what we feel, so suppressing the emotions won't make them go away once and for all. They may go away for a little while, but when the situation presents itself again, those same emotions will come back. 

Feeling guilt or shame may not come from your childhood experiences. After sex, it may stem from a fear you felt that you surrendered yourself to someone else and they saw you at your most vulnerable state.

No matter why you feel them, it is important that you are there for yourself by not judging yourself for what you feel.

Orgasm is a way of letting go. As great as it feels to reach that peak, many of us are scared to reach that point because it is a transcendence. It brings us out of our familiar, ordinary experiences that our minds believe will always exist. Maybe this is why it is called "the little death".

Feeling guilt and shame after masturbation can feel like what you did was unnatural (it's perfectly natural). :) 

The bottom line is that it is ok to feel what you feel. The feelings may be uncomfortable but if you take the time to really sit with them, they will diminish little by little. 

And you're not alone in feeling this way. There are many men and women who feel these exact emotions after as well. Feeling your emotions is key to growth and transformation in all aspects of our lives, not just sex. 

What are some ways that you dealt with feelings of guilt or shame after masturbation or sex? We'd love to hear your thoughts. Please share in the comments section below. :)

 

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