As carnal and sensual as sex is, communication is essential in having a fulfilling sex life. Most of us are hardwired to know the mechanics of sex. That's the easy part. But when it comes to the emotional aspect of it, that's where sex becomes beautifully complex for many of us.
This is why we must communicate our wants, desires and needs in bed to our partners and not feel bad for doing so. We can't assume that our partner will know what to do right off the bat.
Sex is different for everyone. What one person might hate doing in bed, someone else might love to do and so on and so forth.
If there is something that you don't like doing that your partner might want you to do and vice versa, that is something that must be talked about.
Unlike aggressiveness in bed (some people enjoy this, but not everyone does), which can lead to hurt feelings and frustration for your partner because they may not feel good enough to rock your world, being assertive can help meet your needs while also taking your partner's feelings into consideration.
Here are some fun, sexy ideas to show what you want in the bedroom:
1. Moan even more or louder when your partner does something that you really enjoy.
2. Whisper in their ear what you want them to do to you. Nibble on their ear a bit afterwards, to make things extra naughty.
3. Gently and slowly guide their hand (or mouth or whatever!) to the place you want them to play in.
If you feel that your partner is still not meeting your needs after trying these ideas, try having a sit-down conversation about it with them. Let your desires be known to your lover. It'll make all the difference in your sex life.
Have any other ideas on being assertive in bed? Let us know in the comments section below. Thanks for reading. :)