How to Empower Yourself After a Positive STD Diagnosis

How to Empower Yourself after a Positive STD Diagnosis

"You are not your circumstances. You are your possibilities. If you know that, you can do anything."

-Oprah Winfrey

It's a stressful experience to visit a doctor, let alone to get tested for STDs. Depression, anxiety, sleeplessness, loss of appetite can kick in with just the mere thought of "what if...".

Googling the unusual symptoms you've been having "down there" for hours of what it could possibly be, psyching yourself that it's nothing. But it gets worse and worse, so you rush to the doctor to get tested and days later, you get the call that the results came back positive.

It's a situation that none of wish to experience, but many of us do. The world may seem to come to an end and time has stood still. Though we cannot deny that it is a hurtful experience, it could be a great opportunity to empower yourself. 

STDs have been around since mankind has, and the only thing that has changed is the perception, not the condition itself.

The reason that we experience the emotions that we do after a positive diagnosis, is because we have internalized the notion that an:

STD = Something bad

STD = You are a slut

STD = You are dirty

STD = No one is going to love you now

STD = Sin

Nothing could be further from the truth.

  Let's take the herpes virus for example. Herpes is an incurable virus and one of the most common stds around. 

Herpes Simplex Virus 1 (HSV-1), is commonly known as oral herpes. HSV-2, the herpes that is sexually transmitted, is more commonly known as the "bad" herpes. And why do we view HSV-2 as bad while not so much HSV-1?

The stigma of STDs stems from the stigma of sex. If sex wasn't stigmatized, chances are that std's wouldn't be either.


You are beautiful just as you are. Circumstances do not define who you are. 

 A positive std diagnosis is just another situation in life that we must deal with. But knowing the truth about what it really is, instead of questioning your value as a human being because of it, can be a very liberating and empowering experience. 

I hope that this was empowering in showing that having an STD is not as bad as we think it is. Some of this information may be uncomfortable or may challenge some of the ideas that you had about them, but it is important to realize that we cannot always believe what we think. We are human beings, full of layers of complexity and contradictions and that what makes us all the more beautiful. 

At any point in our lives when we go through difficult times, it is important to comfort yourself and be there for you.

Here are some ways to do that:

1. Get a massage.

Massages relax you and help you become in tune with your body.

2. Read something inspiring.

Reading a story about someone else overcoming adversity can motivate you to feel the same about your challenges.

3. Talk to someone that you trust wholeheartedly about your experience.

Talking to a trusted friend can help get your feelings out in the open, making you feel braver to to be you in the world. 

4. Write your feelings out. 

There is something magical about ink and paper that can help transmute the emotions that you feel. It's a detox for the heart.

5. Cry. 

Let it all go and let those tears run down. I guarantee you'll feel better afterwards. :)

6. Watch something funny.

Laughter is really the antidote to pain. Laugh it out!

As you gather your strength, it is important to educate yourself heavily about all STDs, even the ones that you have never had. Whether it is one that you have for a bit of time or a lifetime, it is crucial to learn what they can do to your body. Gaining more knowledge about it will make you feel more in control about the situation. Knowledge really is power, especially in this case.

A place you can start? The Center for Disease Control and Prevention. This is a governmental agency that gives statistics, promotes ways to prevent and treat STDs. Another awesome website to visit is: The STD Project, a website dedicate to educate people and break the stigma of STDs. 

I want to point out that after having given this information about STDs being natural, that is not to say that we should freely sleep around and not care about getting infected or infecting others. We must be responsible in disclosing to our future partners.

 The word "disease" tends to have a negative connotation, but all it simply means is that that the body is not at ease. The prefix dis means "apart" and ease means "the state of being comfortable". So the definition of disease is: being apart of the state of being comfortable. 

Your body is fighting pathogens, viruses and bacteria everyday without you even realizing it. If you really think about it, your body was designed for disease. If your own body fights for you, let this be an inspiration for you to fight for you too. :)

Take your time to let it all sink in and gradually, acceptance will begin to enter into your perspective about your situation. It did for me. :)

Thanks for reading. :)


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