“Someday you’re gonna look back on this moment of your life as such a sweet time of grieving. You’ll see that you were in mourning and your heart was broken, but your life was changing…” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert
Breakups can bring up feelings that make them almost unbearable to experience and almost impossible to keep living our daily lives as usual.
Whether it was mutual or as a result of our own or our partner's actions, heartbreak is something we never ask or hope to go through.
But it happens and we're left with nothing but the shattered pieces of our heart scattered right in front of us. It brings us to our knees to slowly pick up the pieces and get back on our feet and move forward with life.
Opening our heart exposes who we truly are to someone and when that other person rejects us leading to heartbreak, it makes us question the value and worth of our being.
It's at this moment of questioning ourselves of what we're made of that we have an opportunity to transform our lives to reach our highest potential.
The pain in our heart shakes us to our core and if we allow it, it can wake us up to become enlightened in how we can better ourselves in all aspects of our lives.
It's as if once our heart breaks, a mirror is released from inside of it reflecting back at us who we are are what we are made of. What we do with what we see in that mirror is where the transformation can begin, if we choose to do so.
It's a perfect time to ask ourselves:
-What is it that I want out of life?
-How do I imagine myself at my highest potential to be?
-What are things that I have been wanting to do but have been putting off in doing?
-Are there some ways that I can go about differently in how I treat myself?
We can write, record ourselves or if it helps looking at ourselves in the mirror while asking these questions, then do so. Let the tears come down and see what comes out of it all.
As tempting as it is to want to question what went wrong with our breakup and sulk over the mistakes we made, it's important to remember that during heartbreak, it's all about self-healing. It's no longer about the other person but in how we manage to handle the pain and care for ourselves.
It is the irony of life that the most painful experiences can help bring out the most beautiful and powerful parts of who we are and what we can become.
Some of us choose to get better from our heartbreak, while others choose to be get bitter.
The truth is that it's a lot easier to become bitter after a heartbreak. To hold onto the pain and refuse to ever let someone else into our heart is part of our biology to be stored in our brain and be used as a defense mechanism.
It's understandable to become bitter, but it will never be beneficial. It takes courage to love again after a heartbreak, but if we want to develop ourselves to our utmost potential, we must choose to love again in spite of the fear.
While heartbroken, many of us believe that we will never be able to find love again and that is far from the truth.
There are 7+ billion people on this planet and we've only come across a small fraction of them in our lifetime. We will find love again, guaranteed.
Let's let our heartbreak be a time to dive in deep within the abyss of our heart, exploring the desires of who we want to become, making us not only a better partner in our next relationship, but a better and more powerful Woman overall. :)