In our culture, we are taught that vulnerability of our emotions is for the weak. Our social media scrolling reflects nothing but smiles and good times on friend's and family's posts, maybe even our own posts.
But we all know that life isn't always peaches and roses.
We experience pleasurable moments and grip them with all of our might, while seeking ways to get rid of the painful ones.
What if painful emotions are just as necessary to be had as the pleasurable ones?
What if we couldn't know what pleasure felt like without pain?
It's the yin vs. yang of life. Existing opposites create the balance in our lives, like:
Electricity would not exist without both a positive and negative charge.
Negative numbers can emphasize a measurement of many things ( ie: temperature, account balance) from positive numbers.
Negative emotions have their role within us and if we choose to pay attention to it, it could change our lives forever.
There will always be a coming and going of pain and pleasure. Things in life are ever-changing, ever-transforming and our emotions are no different.
What would happen if we embraced our negative emotions as much as our positive ones?
Here's where the hidden beauty lies: Embracing our painful emotions can lead us to strength and transformation.
Life is a balance between holding on and letting go. ~ Rumi
Not one of us has ever heard of anyone dying from painful emotions. Matter of fact, the more we embrace them, the more we realize that they start to lose their intensity within us, thus strengthening and transforming the way we process pain and our painful experiences.
There is hope that our society is slowly evolving into becoming more vulnerable, though.
The #MeToo movement is a perfect example of women and men coming forward, expressing their vulnerability and slowly transformation the way we view sexual assault and harassment and our emotions about it.
Vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous. ~ Brene Brown
Surfing the waves of our painful emotions may feel scary and unbearable, but just as in everything else in life, they will ebb and flow.