The Literal Aspect of Self-Love

The Literal Aspect of Self Love

When I think of self-love, the first things that easily come to mind are: compassion, forgiveness, kindness, unconditional love and acceptance towards myself. Though practicing these are crucial to our self development, it seems that we have forgotten that self-love also encompasses the practice of loving ourselves in the literal sense, meaning pleasuring ourselves or masturbation.

How can we love others if we cannot love ourselves? The same thing could be said about sex in relation to masturbation. By exploring your own body and being one with yourself, it allows you to connect on an even more intimate level with someone else. You become confident in the bedroom because you know how your physical needs need to be met, thus leading to a much more fulfilled sex life with your lover.

Sadly, it is all too common for us women to struggle with being physically in touch (pun intended :)) with ourselves. Whether it is due to a religious or certain cultural (I struggled with both of these being Latina and growing up Christian) upbringing, or societal (living in a patriarchy) reasons, we have been indoctrinated to believe that our bodies and the pleasurable sensations that we feel should be suppressed because it is "dirty", "wrong", "sinful", or "unladylike" to feel these perfectly natural feelings. I believe that this is the #1 reason why so many women struggle to achieve orgasm. 

I say it is time that we realize that our physical needs are just as important as our spiritual needs and should be treated as such. We are not only spiritual beings, but sexual beings, and embracing these equally will allow us to live a much healthier, balanced and fulfilled life.

Ladies, what do you think about self-love? What challenges have you faced in loving yourself? I'd love to hear your thoughts!! :)

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